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Here’s a Roundup of My Published Pieces on Medium

Hi! I’m Sandra Ebejer, a writer from upstate New York. I’m also a mom, a wife, a bookworm, an arts lover, an owner of two cats who hate each other, a music fan, a terrible visual artist, an addict of high-quality television… I could go on and on.

My work has been published in a number of outlets, including The Washington Post, The Boston Globe, Shondaland, Greatist, The Girlfriend from AARP, FLOOD Magazine, Brevity, Scary Mommy, and Sammiches & Psych Meds, among others. To see my full portfolio or read my blog, visit my website at sandraebejer.com.

Below is a collection of my published pieces on Medium, organized by topic and date (newer posts are toward the top). Topics are (in…


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How an old Monkees album helped to change my perception of my mother.

Of all the records stacked side by side in our living room, The Monkees’ 1966 eponymous debut was my favorite. Not for the songs, catchy as they were, but for the sleeve. Caressing the LP, slightly scratched from years of repeated playing, the sleeve would have been just another piece of paper were it not for the doodles drawn by my mother’s teenage hand: ink sketches of girls with long flipped hair wearing mini dresses and go-go boots, surrounded by declarations of love for different members of the band.

“Elaine,” my mother wrote about herself, “loves Peter.”

Peter? I thought.


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It was the best of times, it was the worst of times.

Life is weird.

I recently sat down, as I do every December, to take stock of my year as a writer. I assumed the outcome would be bleak. After all, this has been the year of OMG EVERYTHING IS AWFUL ALL THE TIME.

This was the year of COVID-19, of a seemingly never-ending presidential election, of George Floyd and Rayshard Brooks and Breonna Taylor and far too many other Black victims, of unemployment and the closing down of everything we love and previously took for granted.

As such, I figured my writing stats — my pitches and submissions — would be low. I don’t remember working much in the early months of COVID: When my son’s school closed and he had to homeschool. When publications stopped taking pitches and editors were furloughed. When my anxiety got the better of me and I spent more time sobbing in the kitchen than sitting at my computer. …


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And…here we are, right back in the holiday season. It’s weird. I remember writing my annual Holiday Gift Guide last year. And I vaguely remember the start of 2020. But March through, well, today has been a bit of a blur. Do you think we can redo this year once, you know, *gestures wildly* all this is behind us?

Even if we’re not mentally prepared for it, we may as well get started with our shopping. I mean, your Favorite Writer can’t pen their next novel or secure a big byline without t-shirts and memberships and books and whatnot. Gotta supply them with all the stuff they need to succeed! …


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“The Story Behind the Story” is a behind-the-scenes series on the essays and articles I’ve published in various outlets. By sharing information on pitches, rejections, and lessons learned (all the information I wish I’d had when I was starting out), I hope to help other writers who are trying to establish a successful writing career.

I love my freelance writing job. It’s exhausting and stressful and the pay is terrible, but man, are there some perks. Like that time I got to interview my idol of many decades for a story in a national publication and then her team promoted the piece all over social media? …


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Some tips for getting more out of this site.

It happened again.

I just read yet another post about how Medium is a terrible platform, written by a Medium writer and published…on Medium.

Why?

Seriously, can someone who is unhappy with this site — unhappy enough to whine about it ad nauseam — explain to me why they would continue to publish here? Is this a thing that one does in other areas of life? Like, do you go to Starbucks, buy shitty coffee, rant about how bad it is, and then go back and buy it again the next day?

Look, I get why people become frustrated here. They come to the site, allured by the siren call of the Medium Partner Program, and are woefully disappointed when they make less than a couple bucks. It’s especially disheartening when they see all the “Here’s How I Made $4 Billion in My First Month on Medium” posts. …


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A funny thing happened on the way to Phase 4 of reopening: I stopped stressing about my writing.

This isn’t to say I stopped caring about my writing. But I stopped having the “wake up in the middle of the night terrified I’d made a colossal life mistake” panic attacks that I’d had pre-pandemic.

See, I’ve only been freelancing for two years. I left my nonprofit career in my early 40s to write for newspapers and magazines. The first thing I did when I made the change was to read all the writing books, subscribe to all the writing magazines, highlight all the writing articles, and take all the writing courses. And from them, I learned one thing: “If you want to be successful, you MUST write every day. You MUST read every day. You MUST pitch ideas or submit stories to editors every day. …


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Photo by Kaitlyn Baker on Unsplash

“The Story Behind the Story” is a behind-the-scenes series on the essays and articles I’ve published in various outlets. By sharing information on pitches, rejections, and lessons learned (all the information I wish I’d had when I was starting out), I hope to help other writers who are trying to establish a successful writing career. (Disclosure: Any link below with an * is an affiliate link, which means I will earn a small commission if you click through and make a purchase.)

When I decided two years ago to become a full-time freelance writer, I was overwhelmed by the possibilities. I didn’t know where to begin. Who knew there were so many options? Social Media Content Creator is a thing? …


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Happy second Medium birthday to me.

Two years ago today, I published my first-ever blog post on Medium. I was in a major funk, unhappy with my longtime career as a grant writer, and looking to do something new. Though I’d written a few short stories, none of them had been published (or would be for a long while), so I was trying to find a way to get my work in front of readers and maybe make a bit of money in the process.

Cue: Medium.

I’d read articles on Medium before but had no idea it was an open platform — a place where anyone, anywhere, could publish anything — and that it offered writers the opportunity to earn an income. …


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Like most of the world, I’m home. Sitting at my kitchen table while my son watches TV in the next room and my husband works from the basement, we’re making the best of our new normal. It’s been just over four weeks since COVID-19 surged into our community like water flowing over a dam. In those 30-odd days we’ve gone from “let’s wait and see” about our upcoming travel plans to living in a shuttered city — no bars, restaurants, movie theaters, performing arts venues, sports, playgrounds, or other non-essential locales open to the public. …

About

Sandra Ebejer

Writer, reader, mommy. Just trying to figure out this thing called life. Pub. in Boston Globe, Washington Post, Greatist / sandraebejer.com / Twitter: @sebejer

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